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Monday, March 2, 2009

Question zone: What you don't know won't hurt you.

If your partner cheated on you, regardless of whether you would stay with him/her, would you rather know the truth or not? Why?

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  1. AnonymousMarch 2, 2009 at 9:03 AM

    I would rather know the truth, and most likely I would not end the relationship over it. But then again, I'm a firm believer in open relationships - so you can't really go by me.

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  2. bobbyboyMarch 2, 2009 at 9:28 AM

    Hi SG, I think I can go by you as that is your opinion and feelings based from what you believe-open relationships.

    Thanks for the input SG!

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  3. AnonymousMarch 2, 2009 at 10:42 AM

    I want to know the truth, because it's better to be aware of the problem rather than be blind folded. Then again, it depends on what kind of relationship it is.

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  4. AnonymousMarch 2, 2009 at 10:59 AM

    Categorically, NO! And that's because I don't really believe that, these days, fidelity has much to do with why a relationship works, or doesn't ... and THAT'S because I think sex doesn't have a great deal to do with why many people decide to live together - you just HAVE to have more than physical enjoyment in common to make it worth while putting up with someone else in the house screwing up your social life :)

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  5. bobbyboyMarch 2, 2009 at 11:15 AM

    Hi CJW!
    What about the respect factor to the person being cheated on? Hurt feelings and the lies? I do agree that there is a hell of a lot more to relationships than sex. I really appreciate your open and honest thoughts here :)

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  6. bobbyboyMarch 2, 2009 at 11:18 AM

    HSG, I see that you believe in communication to make a relationship work. I can't agree more! Although they say once a cheater, always a cheater, I'm not sure how true that is.

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  7. Aphro-ME-siacMarch 2, 2009 at 11:59 AM

    I would want to know the truth- as it is the lie more than the act that I think would destroy and eat away at the foundation of the relationship...

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  8. bobbyboyMarch 2, 2009 at 12:33 PM

    Wow Amy, that's a decision that some may have a hard time coming to. But I agree cause with lies comes the end.

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  9. AnonymousMarch 2, 2009 at 1:29 PM

    We need to invent better word than cheater. Perhaps some people belong more to open relationship categories.

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  10. bobbyboyMarch 2, 2009 at 1:48 PM

    I think in the standard relationship, or mutually agreed only one partner, someone breaks this trust it's cheating.

    In an open relationship seeing other partners is agreed upon-this is not cheating. They can however cheat in the relationship still ie: we won't see other people when the kids are around, but then do.

    But, I always love the idea of creating new words :)

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  11. ladyinpurpleMarch 8, 2009 at 11:32 PM

    I WANNA KNOW THE TRUTH...than getting crazy thinking about it the whole time!

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  12. ladyinpurpleMarch 8, 2009 at 11:33 PM

    OMG I'm wondering why the captcha image loaded so long! I visited your 2 other blogs and I'm disappointed when I saw no posts in there

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  13. bobbyboyMarch 9, 2009 at 7:47 AM

    Hi Jazzy, I think many people feel the same as you. Oh, the other two blogs were just test blogs, I hid them both now. Thanks for the comments!

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  14. Clever ElsieMay 29, 2009 at 1:11 AM

    I would definitely want to know. Every day that you're in a relationship, you're making a choice to be with your significant other. You can't make an informed choice if you don't have all the facts. Denying someone pertinent and crucial information about yourself and your relationship denies them the right to walk away from a situation that is unacceptable to them. So I believe that if you've cheated, it's only fair to let your partner know, if for no other reason than because he or she should always have the option to leave a relationship that violates his or her standards.

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Thanks so much for your comment and input! :)

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