You are frustrated with your partner and want to correct this feeling. You love them and want to be with them, but you're worried that this frustration you have with them: a bad habit, Psychological problem, trust issue etc, will end the relationship.
What would you do or what advice would you give to a friend on how to handle this?
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2 years ago
Talk? Ok it's may not be that easy. To solve the problem we need to understand the other person as well. Frustration and angry doesn't help. Show love and don't worry. Now if I know what the problem is I may be able to offer some advice but since I don't know, I would probably guide this person to look up for some books that seems to offer great advice on the issue.
ReplyDeleteAh HSG, from reading my blog, you know I'm a really big believer in communication (talk). You're right that it may not be easy or even that simple, but how many relationships are? And probably because there isn't enough talk!
ReplyDeleteI love your input, thank you!
As I see it, you have two choices: you can continue to be frustrated until your frustration infects the relationship and causes its own problems, or you can take a risk and gently confront your partner.
ReplyDeleteIf someone actually came to me with this question, my first question for them would be why they thought that discussing the issue would lead to a break-up. If a relationship can't weather honest discussion of problems, then it can't succeed, period. If you ignore one problem, what happens the next time another problem looms on the horizon?
All you can really do is approach your partner with as much love as possible and present your concern in a non-threatening way. Let your partner know that you want to stay together but need to come to an understanding or reach a compromise on the issue that's bothering you. If he or she refuses to listen or walks away on the spot, then your partner has proven to you that he or she isn't capable of giving you the healthy relationship you need.
"my first question for them would be why they thought that discussing the issue would lead to a break-up."
ReplyDeleteElsie, you have an uncanny knack for getting to the meat of a problem. I think once this question is worked out, the answer becomes much clearer. Thank you!