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Saturday, January 31, 2009

Falsely accused

There's been documentaries, movies, tv shows and the like about this topic, and for sure, most of us have experienced this in our daily lives. So, I figured I'd throw some stuff out there and see what comes back.

I've been falsely accused of saying things about friends that I never said. Or, some communication was lost in translation (English to English) somehow. I can't say I understand why, although when alcohol is put into the equation, misunderstandings are more prevalent it seems.

So, how do you react when you are accused of saying something that you didn't by a good friend? I use to just tell them go to hell when they didn't believe me that I didn't say anything about them. I've grown up a bit since those days. Now I try to find the cause of the of the problem, usually a person or another friend, and figure things out-work things out.

It still makes me feel like dirt though!

How do you react when your friend doesn't trust you around their partner? I use to get into shouting matches about the stupidity of it. I've grown up a bit since those days. Now I just back off from the things that may make a friend feel insecure.

It still makes me feel like dirt though!

I'm big on trust and loyalty and have, I believe, proven and still prove these qualities. It's bothersome when I feel that a friend may feel otherwise about me, but I'm more understanding these days.

It still makes me feel like dirt though!

So, how do you, or did you, deal with not being trusted, or more to topic, being falsely accused of something that you didn't do or say by a good friend?

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8 comments:

  1. I try to not being friend with someone not being trusted in me. I have my sense so all my friend always trust in me or else if they don't feel trust i can make them feel. Please Always remember that a "Good" friend always trust in you

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  2. Hi Anonymous, that sounds like some really good advice you have there. I appreciate your input!

    Cheers!

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  3. I don't know...maybe you're doing something wrong? Or they are the one that have trust issue. Maybe they have friends in the past that behaved that way...

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  4. HSG, I am sure I do things wrong and make mistakes, being human. What I mean here is that if someone is your good friend, they should probably have some trust in you and give you the benefit of the doubt. If they are a good friend, I find it strange that they would accuse you right away just from a rumor. Even a criminal gets the benefit of the doubt, right?

    Thanks!

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  5. Always my pleasure bobby :)and keep your good work also remember that you still have many friends that trust in you

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  6. Hi again Anonymous, I have a feeling that you are one of those friends ;)

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  7. It doesn't sounds like a good friend at all. Maybe you should see it in away, that's his problem not yours if the person has trust issue. Or let that person goes...or accept his flaw and find away to handle it...

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  8. You know HSG, I have few friends (my choice) for exactly the reasons you state. A few good friends is a lot better than 100 so-so friends!

    Thank you.

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Thanks so much for your comment and input! :)

 
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