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Monday, January 26, 2009

A better you might make a better me.

Many times in life we come across those who would make us feel different, less then or just out of the loop as to what's considered acceptable. Some of us feel too ugly, skinny, awkward or fat, and it seems that we can always depend on those who will, at the drop of a hat, re-enforce our insecurities.

Yes, bless their little hearts for pointing out that a certain dress might make us look longer, and thereby less fat. Or that a new style haircut would be much more attractive to the opposite sex. The best times to get this advice, of course, is when we didn't even ask for it.

We all know that if we are friends with someone and really want to help that friend, we should support their efforts and offer positive feedback. Or do we?

It seems to me that when someone is not insecure about who they are, there are a few around, that others pick up on this quickly and find, in a short period of time, that these secure people have a lot to offer. Amazingly, when the person is not insecure about being "Too tall" or "Too heavy", we are impressed by their self esteem, probably because we might not be if we were them.

Ends up in many cases that these people that feel good about who they are, are the very people we go to for advice on a wide range of issues-imagine that! When these people are above all the childish labeling that is thrown at them most of their lives, it shows us that they are better people at a higher place within themselves. I dare to say that knowing people like this, has made, and continues to make a better person out of me.

Just something to think about.



  1. Hi Bobby,
    Spent some frantic moments searching for your blog the other day. The new look is not bad!
    I've got a new posting on mine.
    Best wishes

  2. I'd love to be more like that--working on it.

    In the meantime, I still get wigged out when someone tells me, "Oh, I like you better without your glasses" (great--but I still need my glasses). = )

  3. Hi Island girl, yes, I made some changes, but the old link will still bring you here :)


  4. I can relate to this post Bob!

    Believe me or not but I got inferiority b4 because I thought that I'm too skinny and not that attractive but because of great people..they were able to take the best out of me (^_^)

    BTW HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you..... God bless you more my friend.

  5. Thank you Jazzie for the BD wish :)

    Many people get inferiority complexes because of thoughtless people. It's up to all of us to stop this non-sense. I'm glad you had some good people around you when you needed them!


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