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Sunday, December 14, 2008

So Bobby, what do you find attractive in a woman?

I have been asked this question, and others like it, so many times that one would think I had a solid answer by now, right? Well no, not really.

Truth is, when I see it (attractiveness) in a woman, I just know it. I usually tell people that I have to "click" with a woman. You know, that certain something that draws two people together, sometimes without even speaking to one another.

Lets face it, looks are important to most, if not all of us. But to what degree I would ask. A woman could be drop dead gorgeous, but without that certain something, we really wouldn't have a chance at being a couple.

Sexiness on the other hand is a big attraction for me. Let's use the 1-10 method that we all understand so that I can describe what I mean. A woman can be a 10 in looks, but a 2 in sexiness and I wouldn't be all that interested in her. If she were a 10 in looks and a 5 in sexiness, then I'm more interested in her, see?

So, what's attractive to me? A woman who's confident in who she is and knows what she wants is super sexy to me. Not afraid to express her opinion and demand the respect that she deserves. I would say this is on the top of the list.

I love a woman who has a good intuition about people. I can talk with her about anything and she'll know what advice to give because she understands me well.

A certain walk, a certain expression or a certain laugh she may have can be very attractive to me also.

These are some of the things that I find sexy or attractive in a woman.

What things do you find sexy in a person?


  1. It's her soul. In the end, that's what makes a woman attractive and/or sexy to me - and they say the eyes are the window of the soul. Sure there are certain body type limitations for me, but they stretch a hell of a lot according to what's inside her head. It's almost impossible to define precisely because it varies so much, but a woman who might be physically attractive on the face of things can be very unattractive the minute you look into her eyes - and vice versa, of course.

    Of course, all the things you mention - a look, a walk, a gesture, her voice and all sorts of body language things, they can all be sexy, or not, but they are the way they are BECAUSE of what's going on in her mind. When all's said and done, that's what turns me on or off.

  2. Excellent input CJ! I think many people are more into "About" the person than the face value. Although, quite honestly, sometimes I'm not all that sure.

  3. Sense of humor- confidence- swagger- integrity- sense of conviction in their beliefs but open minded as well...kindness... an essence that is so thick that when they leave the room, I find I miss it:)

  4. "an essence that is so thick that when they leave the room, I find I miss it:)"

    Boy, that's a lot of essence! lol. Personally, I find these words to belong in a book :)

  5. Ha! I will insert that into the book I am working on as we speak;) Thx friend:)

  6. A guy who can smile! :)

  7. Wow Jess, I'm not sure it can be said any simpler than that...love it :)

  8. Hmmm you can make a post for your blog in here by checking my last post that I made in http://jazzie.blogono.com Since this blog is about relationship..you can rephrase it in your words and post it here (^_^)

    That post suits in your blog Bob (^_^)

  9. Thanks Jazzie, I'm going to post it in my blog ^_^


Thanks so much for your comment and input! :)

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