In most instances where we find ourselves prepping for a date or social situation, we put our best foot forward. Wedding, engagement party, date, birthday celebration or any situation where we feel we may be judged, we try to look our best and be as attractive as possible. Some say we, "Wear a mask."
This is a normal thing to do and probably quite natural as well. It makes us feel good and helps us to fit in with those around us. It's important to look presentable for the occasion and in many instances, required.
But, who do we portray to those around us as to who we really are? Are we showing the real us? And, if we are not, then why not? I know that if we are on a date with a potential partner, we want to make the best impression that we can. We want that person to like who we are. Yet the irony is that the person that they see in us may not, quite often, be the real person that we are. We wear a mask.
Many of us believe that we should just be who we are, and if that person likes what they see in us, then great, if not, then we move on. I'm sure that there are those who act accordingly, showing their real face from the get go, whereas I believe most of us don't. For this latter group of people I wonder, how long do we wear the mask? Is it a time frame thing, or more than likely, a comfortability thing? The more comfortable we are with a person, the more of our true selves we feel comfortable to show, right?
So, how long do you wear a mask?
2 years ago
Hi boboy
ReplyDeleteYes, that's true don't be shy to show our true colors.
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Yes. It's a real problem and I think it's pretty obvious it's why a lot of relationships break down. The thing is, you fall for the person someone wants you to see, which is probably the person they'd like to be all the time, but can't keep up indefinitely.
ReplyDeleteProbably the best advice is, don't get married unless you can afford two houses and can agree not to see each other more than three or maximum four days a week - should stay fresh and exciting for years, if not forever ;)
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Hey CJ, I must say that you make a hell of a point and just touched on my next topic; absence making the heart grow and stay fonder :)
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Wearing a mask is like pretending to be someone else. I just can't do it.
ReplyDeleteI 100% agree with what cjw666 said in his first paragraph, "Yes. It's a real problem and I think it's pretty obvious it's why a lot of relationships break down. The thing is, you fall for the person someone wants you to see, which is probably the person they'd like to be all the time, but can't keep up indefinitely."
ReplyDeleteSome people see it as 'putting their best foot forward', but of course it's a lot more insidious than that.
I vote for leaving the masks at home. If someone only likes the 'best' you, then your relationship isn't going to last long.
very good points here Bobby boy:) I think one problem is a lot of people don't even know the difference between their mask and who they are underneath it as they have identified for so long with it on...
ReplyDelete@Jessica I think you are a part of a very small group of people then Jess. I think most of us have some kind of mask sometimes...wish I could be mask free!
ReplyDelete@Singlegirl hmm you make me wonder if people could be mature, or have the strength to leave the masks at home.
@Aphro-Me-siac Hell of a good point! Makes me wonder who I really am without any kind of mask? :)
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Blogwalking? hahaha that's a new term for me. Thanks for stopping by :)
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