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Tuesday, November 18, 2008

My friend says Independence

That she wants a guy who understands her and gives her the freedom to be her. She wants to do what she wants to do and when she wants to do it. If she wants to go out to a club, even with other single guys there, there should be no problem from him. If she tends to flirt, it should be fine with him.

She believes that she shouldn’t be questioned when she makes a decision, even if he disagrees. She’s open to his opinion and will listen, but if she decides differently, he shouldn’t give her a hard time about it.

She wants what she considers true independence, although some might say it’s having your cake and eating it too.

I wonder how many guys would accept a woman like this? I tend to think that many women have had to accept guys like this in the past. Letting him make the decisions as it pertains to both of them.

Double standard or equality?


  1. I think what your friend wants is something attainable. She doesn't want to walk all over a guy, just to be able to decide how she wants to live. To be an equal partner.
    I couldn't live with anything less.

  2. Uh Bobby. She's looking for a wuss. It won't take her long to get bored with the whole scenario. Then, she'll start talking about finding men who are not "doormats".

    We are SO, SO confused..... :) What a vicious cycle, I tell ya.

  3. It sounds like none of them is ready for the relationship if they can't come to an agreement. Yup, there are double standard in many issues. Let's say that both are doing the same thing,flirting, cheating or whatever while being in a relationship, it would fall harder on woman. If a guy is angry at a woman for doing the wrong things, beware he could be doing the same thing behind her back and she doesn't even know it.

  4. Wow, three lady comments, yet three different type answers :O

    Singlegirl, if she knows what she wants and feels she wont accept anything less, then I agree with her.

    Sharon, she's an alpha female and if she feels he's a beta male, she may move on, we'll see.

    We are SO, SO confused..... :) What a vicious cycle, I tell ya.

    hahaha you don't have to tell me ;)

    Jessica, you may have a point about what's going on behind closed doors or behind each others back. And it may be that either one knows what they want yet...hmmm

    Thanks guys for the feedback :)

  5. lol Diva, how can one answer that question?

    Truth is that all friends that I post about here are real friends (and some acquaintances)that espouse their opinions in many different relational situations. There are male, female, married, divorced, separated, gay etc. I have many friends.
    I guess I'm just a very friendly guy ;)


Thanks so much for your comment and input! :)

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