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Monday, November 24, 2008

Learning from time

I think we have all said, "If I could only go back in time I
would..." There would undoubtedly be any number of things we would
change or do differently. We know the past is out of our hands, or is

Let's look at the famous phrase by George Santayana ,
'Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it." We all
learn from our past experiences, but do we repeat the negative areas or
mistakes that, if given a choice years later, we would say, If I could only go back in time I would...?

I know that I mention time in my posts a lot, but that's because I
believe we may not give enough of it to truly find out who a person is,
or what a person or situation is all about. How many times have we
misjudged someone after knowing them only a short time? Have you ever
heard someone say something like, "In the beginning, we didn't like
each other. But, after a while we ended up best friends"?

As it pertains to relationships, or anything else for that matter, I
truly feel that we can avoid repeating some history that we'd rather
forget, or not repeat if we give everything it's proper time.


  1. I feel like you're talking straight to me, here. I used to be the type of person who would rush into relationships. My motto was, "I can tell it's right." And I was usually wrong. There was usually something I'd find out about the guy, long after I'd dived in, that made me realize we were doomed. I am TRYING SO HARD to learn to be patient now. Thanks for the constant reminders.

  2. lol Singlegirl, rest assured I'm not talking about you. However, your comment is perfect for the post, thank you!

    Sorry for the reminders, but you'll notice a theme running through most of my posts: communication, time and honesty.

  3. Thanks for commenting on my post, I try my best not to repeat history :). Sometimes, we can't really avoid doing the same things that we do, or making the same mistake, because learning is a process too, but yeah, we have to pick up any good wisdom that will come along with the experience.

  4. Hi Riza, I see you have wisdom :)

    Thanks for stopping by my blog and see you later lol

  5. I love this- it is just what I needed to read this morning and so true!

  6. Oh yes. I say that endlessly - more and more now I'm becoming ancient and, although I'm still only thirty something in my head, my body frequently insists on reminding me of reality (bastard!).

    The trouble is, we all still carry ourselves and our limitations and phobias with us and we still would, even if we could start over. I think we'd need to be born into a different time, or environment, with different parents - trouble is we'd be different people then, wouldn't we?

    You're right, of course. I guess I just need to try harder :)

  7. You know CJ, I have found when all is said and done, age really doesn't matter. And I believe that saying, "You are as young as you feel." Of course there are times I'd like to feel younger myself ;)

    I agree that we would be different people from your example, sure. I am the person I am today and move forward with it. When I make a mistake, I correct it. The way I correct the past is to do better in the future. You can too :)


Thanks so much for your comment and input! :)

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