Feminism basically is belief in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.
Alpha female basically a self-assured and strong woman.
Let me say right off the bat that neither of these two terms have anything to do with the threatening of a man. I believe these terms have to do with a struggle and choice, in the case of feminism, to be treated equally, and in the case of Alpha female, to have respect as an equal and not being afraid to try and get what you want in life. I believe there is a natural cross integration, or weaving of the two.
Growing up, I have heard from men (mostly) complaining about feminists as though they were trying to get something more than men have in society and that it was somehow at the expense of men. I think this is very ignorant.
What does this have to do with relationships? A lot of misunderstanding.
If a woman stands up for herself, she is a bitch. Yet a man is expected to stand up for himself. If a woman dates around, she is a slut. Yet a man is considered a player and is congratulated for his conquests. As a man, if these roles were reversed, I wouldn't like it one bit! So why should anyone expect woman to?
If what I am saying is true, then I am a feminist and not afraid to admit it either. I think standing with someone who's rightfully demanding to be equal is a plus for a relationship, not a minus.
Maybe I'm crazy or missing something here, but if I am, please point it out.
2 years ago
Good post clearly expressed and I agree with you except for one thing - there is a whole branch of feminism (mainly with older, outdated ideas) that believes that women can only acive equality through superiority and most of those women are male haters. In my book that makes them no better that misogynists. Sadly, because they are often so vocal, they give femisism a bad name.
ReplyDeleteRecently, Jenn Astle (Power and Stilettos), myself and others (hopefully a LOT of others) have been pushing the term "Lipstick Feminism", which simply refers to modern feminism - women being women and men being men, without either considering themselves to be superior because of their sex. Seems like a reasonable attitude to me.
Hi CJ, thanks for the comment. Can you point me in the direction of that other branch? And, like anything else, I guess nothing is 100% and there will be differences. Thanks for pointing this out to me :)
ReplyDeletehi bobby,
ReplyDeletei don't know if you remember me, but i have always been grateful for the regular comments you have been making on my posts.
i would just like to invite you once again and visit me at this blog and hope we can continue making connections.
i wish you all the best...
dada - : darkspark :
"If a woman stands up for herself, she is a bitch. Yet a man is expected to stand up for himself. If a woman dates around, she is a slut. Yet a man is considered a player and is congratulated for his conquests. As a man, if these roles were reversed, I wouldn't like it one bit! So why should anyone expect woman to?"
ReplyDeleteTrue, true and true.
The biggest mistake women make is buying into these labels- feeding them with the energy of fighting-waging war on men and women a like...
I, as a woman, just live as though they don't exist in my world- and they don't.
You have in your life what you feed- I can't change the world but I can be the change I want to see in the world-
And the way I do that?
By creating a world within me that these things are not present in- therefore cannot live or thrive because I don't feed them... period.
Great post!!!
Amy, excellent way to put it and I've done that also with certain things. I am however stubborn when it comes to ignorance and feel I have to at least try.
ReplyDeletethanks for the visit. and thanks for the show of support and appreciation.
ReplyDeletei am darkspark, my former blog is in http://www.fireflywings.net/
hope to see you more often. :o)
"If a woman stands up for herself, she is a bitch. Yet a man is expected to stand up for himself. If a woman dates around, she is a slut. Yet a man is considered a player and is congratulated for his conquests. As a man, if these roles were reversed, I wouldn't like it one bit! So why should anyone expect woman to?"
ReplyDelete-The relevance of this section raised this question in my soupy brains...well then, how would you label women like me? I'm not a feminist, but I do have a strong personality...because I have to, I function as both father and mother to my children. I believe that I have the right to speak up, but honestly in deep real need of someone to be with me for the rest of my life.
I like it!
ReplyDeleteHi Marissa,
ReplyDeleteI don't really like labels, but because we have them, I have to use them. I would call you a very good mother. My mother had to raise us kids alone also, so I understand the tough situation.
You're a strong woman and a good mother, and that's what I would call you. I think any man should be lucky to have a woman like you!!
Cathouse teri,
Thank you :)
Hi Millers,
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by and yep, I'll be visiting you more often :)