A clarification on alpha males

After reading a blog recently by one of my favorite bloggers, the very talented Alphafemale , I came to the realization that I may need to dive a little further into the topic of beta males. I want to do this because I believe that there may be some misconceptions about what a beta male really is. Being a beta male myself, I feel somewhat qualified to tackle this topic.

The basic concept and description of the types of male is this:

Alpha male-cool, calm, collected, funny, charming, gets lots of sex, the leader, always in control, at ease, good looking, in shape, high status, jocks, masculine, confident, contentious, demanding.

Beta male-positive-minded, ambitious, whimp, marriagable, shy, reserved, funny, nice guy etc.

Omega male-real nice guy, loser, subservient, can't get sex. Some say the complete opposite of the Alpha male.

This is a hierarchy and there seems to be some confusion as to where the beta male fits in. Is he more like the alpha or omega? Is he right in the middle sharing both qualities evenly? Having taken the above types of male from a variety of sources, I would say there is a little criss-crossing between them all. And like most other things, no carved in stone-rock solid-unquestionable definition.

I think the misconceptions start coming in when we aren't quite ready or maybe willing to realize that not everything is so cut and dry. We tend to categorize, which is quite normal and even useful at times, but when dealing with such difficulties that can arise in relationships, there may be better ways.

These are a couple of things I'd like to tackle:

"I want a guy who can compromise, but I don't want a doormat."

I understand that many woman definitely don't want a doormat as a partner. Rest assured ladies, not every beta male is a doormat. He has a mind of his own and will, most times, let you know about something he disagrees with. Being an easy going guy and deferring to things you may want to do doesn't make him a doormat. Not standing up to you ever, even if he disagrees with you adamantly does. I have respect for myself , and although easy going, will indeed put my foot down where and when necessary.

"Im sure there are plenty of Beta males that would stick up for the family and what not.
Its just, if he came across an alpha he would back down. Thats a fact."

There are resources that I've read that pretty much said this as though it was a fact-it isn't! In my case, I do try to avoid having confrontations where possible, but have on numerous occasions stood up for my partner, and even my partner's friends. To say that I would back down to an alpha male, especially put forth as a fact, is a bit ignorant. Those who know me in person would indeed attest to the fact that I have many times stood up to alpha males for family, friends and partners. To say something is a fact, unless it is, is something that brings confusion and misinformation to those ladies that are sincerely looking for a good partner for themselves.

"But if you are with an alpha yes you get much more security in terms of protection ... but you have to put up with a lot of negatives aswell."

Again, I'm not quite sure where this comes from, but let me add a few facts of my own to this statement. I happen to know more than a handful of beta males that are highly skilled in the area of personal protection. Hell, I even knew a biker friend who, although was beta with his relationship, worked as a bouncer at one of the more jumping clubs here in Brooklyn. I can assure you that he, and others were better protectors of their ladies than some of the alpha males out there.

In closing, there are many sites out there that offer good information for those that want to know what an alpha, beta or omega male is in general, and as it pertains to what they may want in a partner. The main point is that you should know who you are, what you want, and most importantly, keep an open mind. You may be surprised to find that there are beta males out there that are not doormats and more than able to protect their loved ones.