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Monday, November 10, 2008

BBU relationship guide.

Boy, there sure are a lot of rules when it comes to dating and relationships, huh? Seems with all the techniques out there and “how to’s”, the universities should really consider a masters degree curriculum in relationships. For those of us just trying to understand relationships a little better, it can be a daunting and confusing voyage. Not to worry though, here at BobbyBoy University, I aim to take the confusion out of the curriculum and replace it with a K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Stupid). Well, that’s what my Mom used to tell me all the time.

I, not being the brightest star in the sky, am going to venture to lay the groundwork down for a degree in relationships from BBU. I will remind myself to K.I.S.S the situation at every turn, and with your help and input, we may have a basic outline in which to achieve a more successful and pleasant dating experience.

Ok, now back to reality. Here are a few basic principles that I believe should guide us when dealing with relationships:

The three-point guide.

1. Know who you are and what you want.

Knowing who you are may be the easiest of the three-point guide. You, better than anyone else, should know who you are. Others like friends and family may see things about you that you may not realize, but at the end of the day, it’s you who knows what’s in your mind and in your heart. What you believe, feel, desire and how far you’ll go etc.
Be honest with yourself as to what you want and don’t settle. Know where you want to go in life and what type of partner you would want to accompany you. Realize that you are somebody in this world and you deserve a good life.

2. Know who they are and what they want.

This is a little harder because you have to be on guard for players, cheaters, fortune seekers and what not. You can’t read someone else’s mind. The good news is that with time, the true person will avail him/herself, so give it some time. Along with this time that you take to get to know the person, you’ll come to find what he/she truly wants.

3. Use the “toolbox”

The tools here are just rarely or not often used common sense guides to building a successful relationship in my opinion. They plug in quite well though with points one and two above.

Honesty-be honest with yourself and to the prospective partner.
Communication- communicate your thoughts, desires and feelings with honesty.
Time- give it as much time as it needs.

Feel free to use these tools in conjunction with points one and two. You’ll see how well they all work together!

Did I miss anything?


  1. :) good pointers...will read more on this...

  2. Thanks Riza, good to see you here :)

  3. I think I say this 5x a day LOL


  4. LOL Miss Matchmaker, I've been saying it 10x a day ;)

  5. Great pointers Bobby! 3 things we all need to remember!

  6. Hi Lisa!
    Isn't that the problem? That many seem to forget the basics?

    Thanks for stopping by :)

  7. Hi Boboy

    Yes, communication is best and of course honesty. Be honest and always communicate with each others that way your relationship always on fire. (lol)
    LoL, i missed. What a day.I guess i am not in my mind today.

    I guess its because the perfect marriage movie i watched tonight boboy.

    see yah

  8. It's always good to keep a relationship on fire, huh? ;)

    Thanks for your comment and take care!

  9. YES. This could work if only everyone could learn to live by these rules.

  10. You know Singlegirl, it's not so much the what people need to learn about dating, but more the how to get them to do it, right?

    There's always hope :)



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