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Thursday, October 30, 2008

Threatened by other's relationships.

I tend to think to myself sometimes why would someone reading a post in a blog be kind of snippy with their comments. Sometimes posters are even outright hurtful! I know some posts/topics are a serious subject for some and can tend to bring out strong opinions and even emotions. But, why not bring across your points in a constructive way leaving the possibility of persuasion open?

Other than posters of this kind just being blow hards, I think it boils down to a perceived personal threat. For example, maybe someone posts about an "Open relationship" that works for their situation. They post a constructive, non judgmental blog about their situation and why they believe it works for them. Readers usually have an open mind and more importantly, respect for another's opinions and lifestyle. Then there are those that are part of the moral majority who feel it's their mission in life to point out how wrong the poster is and how they need to change their ways. Maybe there's a strong religious background, and/or a very strict and ignorant upbringing. I believe these people feel threatened by the actions and beliefs of others as though there's a force out there somewhere trying to change THEIR way and beliefs.

Some of these people seem to think that an open mind is the enemy, yet that ignorance and intolerance for others is the key to a better world somehow. They have it backwards. Tolerance or open mindedness are not diseases or an army ready to burst through your door and turn you gay, or make you have a threesome.

We feel threatened because we believe we are under attack. That someone is trying to chance our person, our core beliefs-they're not! They are trying to express their ideas, feelings and beliefs just like you and I are free to do. Maybe I'm a part of the minority, but I find expression and freedom to do so, a non threat to my person and a beautiful thing! Imagine a world without it?


  1. Human are complex. We'll never be able to understand how some people cannot understand other group of people. For them, moral issue come firs. For other, a person comes first.

    We should all examine our own belief systems. I mean, what do we really know beside what parents, friends, churches, schools or organizations tell us? We learn to believe what they believe.

  2. Hi Jess!
    Good points indeed :)

    We are molded by our experiences in life, and hopefully, we combine all we have learned and become our own person.

    Thanks for sharing your ideas!

  3. Some people just can't be let themselves be open to other people's point's of view. They feel threatened. It's sad, really. Why they feel compelled to make nasty comments on blogs is beyond me, though. They just need to get a life.

  4. Hi Singlegirl!

    I must say that you know how to put thoughts together well-they really do need to get a life!

    Thanks :)

  5. Hi BB! I like your compositions. I too love compositions/essays but I am not very good on English grammar and composition, but I try to, and I love to learn.

    Anyhow, don't worry too much about those commentaries. It'll just give you wrinkles on your face that will make you look old! hehe.. You are the sailor --- the captain of your own ship which is your blog. Just wipe out those things that block your way. lol

    If you only knew that I have a big experience on that which created a big issue on the Group online where I joined. But of course, just stay calm and positive.

    Lastly, I hope you don't mind if I ask you to add me to you link.

    Thanks and take care!


    P.S.: It might interest you to read my post there on my blog.

  6. Hi islebabe!

    Thanks for your kind words :)
    Don't worry about your English too much because I can understand you just fine. And if you love to write, just keep on writing.

    LOL yes, I will sail my own ship (Good advice).

    Oh, and I already added your blog to mine. Keep up the good work :)

  7. Thanks Sir BB for the comment and suggestion. I actually wanted to finish that, but man, I can't. I am still too busy here, so, I thought that I will just continue writing it some other time.

    Anyway, that's a great suggestion though to divide it into shorter parts not just for the reason of people won't read a long story, but they will also come back in order to read the continuation of the blog if they got interested. More visitors. (",)


    P.S.: Thanks for adding my blog to yours... Take care and God bless!

  8. Although I'm sure they wouldn't want to admit it, those that think they are the moral majority are actually the maoral minority. The rest of us just regard ourselves as people.

    As to why some feel the need to get all steamed up about someone else's point of view is, as has been said, they feel threatened.

    But why do they feel threatened? May I venture to suggest that it's because, in some deep, dark part of themselves that they keep secret even from their own consciousness, they know full well that what they believe and base their lives upon is a bit "iffy" to be polite about it - and if they once admit that openly, even to themselves, then they'll likely have to face the fact that their whole life is a lie. A scary place to be, I guess.

  9. CJ, if what you're saying is true, I think I feel bad for these people. Well, maybe only a little bit because they can correct themselves!


Thanks so much for your comment and input! :)

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