Relationships are like houses in many ways, without solid foundations in bad weather, they may fall away, not always, but there is a better than average change. This being the case, how can we actively pursue a solid relationship? Common sense would declare, “Built a solid foundation!” Where to start building that foundation one might ask? It’s with you.
If we actually take the time to take stock of ourselves, we may find that we have some cracks in our foundation. Finding them is not really the hard part if we are honest about it. It just falls in line with no one is perfect, but what to do with these cracks is the important part.
Taking stock
Are you honest with others as well as yourself?
Can you communicate your thoughts and feelings?
Do you have your ego in check?
Do you have the ability to compromise?
Are you generally liked by people? Why? Why not?
What do you want for my future?
What qualities do you want/not want in a partner?
Are you willing to settle?
These are just some of the questions that I would ask myself. I would try and correct the things I could right away, and work on those tougher ones that may have been ingrained in me for years. A good technique could be to ask trusted friends that have known you for a long time how they see you. Although it’s true that know one knows us quite like ourselves, it’s also true that we don’t see ourselves as others do either. Get constructive criticism from the outside perspective.
If you have been in a failed marriage or relationship, use that as a tool to critic your part in it if any. If you have been called a hard head or too sensitive, find out what that means and how it applies to you then correct it if need be. Remember, “Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”
If you have found some negative stock in yourself and discarded it or corrected it, not only will this help you in future relationships, but it will also have the great benefit of making you a better person. Either way, knowing who you are and what you want from a relationship would cut down quite a bit on time wasted in impossible relationships. Isn’t that alone worth taking stock in ourselves?
I decided to answer your questions outLOUD that is ! LOL!!!
ReplyDeleteAre you honest with others as well as yourself? I think I am a lil to honest. Sometimes I have to like umm tone it down a little!!
Can you communicate your thoughts and feelings? I think I run them away! LOL!
Do you have your ego in check? YEP!
Do you have the ability to compromise? Sometimes, depends on what is up for Compromising.
Are you generally liked by people? Why? Why not? Yes, I am a people person and I like to show the real me so they can see where I am coming from!
What do you want for my future? All that is Mine..according to the bible all of my needs! Love, marriage, Kids, a sense of Pride of what I am doing is right!
What qualities do you want/not want in a partner? I want them to love me for me, to always be there when I need them. I want NO slackers, they need to be able to carry Their weight in our relationship
Are you willing to settle? NOPE!
Hi Single!
ReplyDeleteGlad you answered the questions outloud :)
Sounds like you have a strong foundation to me.
Ready for the second round of questions? lol Kidding.
Thanks so much for your comment!
Your welcomed, I am loving this.. it is like a preparation class for me, Just one day I may be ready to have a relationship... I said maybe!!! LOL!!
ReplyDeleteI like the single way of life as of right now!!!
hi bobby,
ReplyDeletethanks for the visit and comments. i'm glad you liked my poem.
btw, i am enjoying your blog. i am putting you in my list of links.
have a nice day everyday.
Thank you so much dadaism, I just added you also :)
ReplyDeleteGlad you like my blog!
Hi Bobby, nice post I can answer the questions too but not out loud hahaha!
ReplyDeleteAnyway, take a break from being a relationship guro and tag along. You've been tagged. see my post tagging along for instructions... have fun
Hi EG!
ReplyDeleteRelationship guru??? hahahaha, I wish, just trying to collectively figure it all out :0
Thanks for the tag fun lady!