Photo sourceIn many cultures the family of the young man or woman decides whom they will marry. Their partners in some cases are chosen for them at birth. It must be very difficult in these cultures for the young people. Even in cultures or societies where pre arranged marriages are much more rare, there is still a certain amount of respect given to the elders about their opinion on a partnership or marriage.
Respect for the opinions and knowledge of the elders in our families I believe is important. They give these opinions based from love and experience with life that we haven’t had yet. This is a good thing because we know they care about our future. But how much importance should be given to the elders? If you feel deep down in your soul that a partner is the right one for your life, is that the major factor in your decision? Our elders have made their mistakes and don’t want to see us make the same ones, but shouldn’t there be some mistakes that youngsters are allowed to make and learn from themselves? It is yet another stage in life, right?
So, for those of you getting into a relationship, how much weight do you give to the opinions of family? It’s your life and when you know what you want out of it, you should go for it, right? Or maybe you feel that family might at times be a hindrance to your goals in life?
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ReplyDeleteah... I'm a true rebel in this sense.... I go with my heart... I don't care if my family doesn't like the one I love I go with who I want for me and not who THEY want for me... I was wrong in one relationship and good thing I am moving on now and now I am happy with my present one.... but I always say go with your heart... at the end of the day it is you who will be dealing with your partner for the rest of your life and not your family.
ReplyDeleteLove, I believe is shared not imposed. I can not imagine myself living with a man chosen not by me but by my elders.
ReplyDeleteAn arranged marriage could lead to hatred between two people and damage their hearts irreparably.
The man I’ll marry should not only be my partner but also my best friend. Thank God, I found one…:)
Very inspiring post...
Pinaylovestories,
ReplyDeleteYou're most welcome. Not many blogs tell of love from around the world, it's simply fantastic!
EG,
seems we are similar in that sense. You described it exactly the way I would :)
Nina,
"An arranged marriage could lead to hatred between two people and damage their hearts irreparably."
This is the tragedy, kind of like Shakespeare.
Good luck with your partner!
Hi,my opinion for this I Love my family,then i love my new family too.But he had too accept my family first too.Like my parents & sister.Because i am a filipina and i am proud to be...I will never turn my back on my family.Whenever they need me.Hmmmm i hope i am not out of the topic....hehehhee
ReplyDeleteBy the way...thanks for adding my links...i will add your too in my paged.
Hi Pinaylovestories,
ReplyDeleteYou're not off topic at all. I have heard many Pinays and Thai's say the same thing that you just did.
Sometimes, like earthlingorgeous, there is a different opinion.
I appreciate your input PLS, this is how we all learn better! And you're welcome about the link, I think it's a great blog!
My Heart, that is if I still have one! LOL!! I tend to trust my own self rather than family and friends!
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to marriage and relationships only the parties involved can truly express how they feel when it comes to love!!
Single,
ReplyDeleteI'm one of those people that listens closely to what people advice me about, but like you, also make the final decision based from she and I.
I would go with my heart, it is my life anyway. I highly respect the elders but it's not up to them who I will spend my life with.
ReplyDeleteAs for me, my family has generally tried to steer clear of doling out unsolicited relationship advice, believing that I would ask for it if I wanted it. And I always have. I think the fact that they let me come to them instead of forcing it down my throat has made me seek it out and really value it rather than rebelling against it without cause, as so many others do.
ReplyDelete"I think the fact that they let me come to them instead of forcing it down my throat has made me seek it out and really value it rather than rebelling against it without cause, as so many others do."
ReplyDeleteOutstanding!